January 22, 2005

家づくり成功の心得−其ノ四

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家は他人に自慢するためにつくるわけではない。
そこに暮らす家族が心地よいと思えればそれでいい。
周りに流されず、自分たちのためだけの家をつくればそれでいいのだ。
それでも他人に誉めてもらえることは嫌な気持ちがしないのも事実である。
しかし、順序を間違ってはいけない。
自分たちの住み心地が先。他人からの評価は後である。

Posted by asazuma at January 22, 2005 5:35 PM
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朝妻様、はじめまして!
garaikaさんのところから遊びに来ました。

成功の心得其の二は、しっかり胸に刻みました。
欲しいから、ではなく、手にした結果どうなるから必要なのだ、という考え方をしないといけませんね。

それから、私は家を作るとき、友人を招いたときの、友人の評価を想像せずにいられません^^*
誰が住むんだ、って時々反省しています。

Posted by: ゆかり at January 23, 2005 11:14 AM

ゆかりさんへ

こんにちは、朝妻です。

日記拝見しました。
“家づくりは楽しくてわくわくするものでなくてはならない”をポリシーとしている私としても残念です。
でも、今後もその連続だと思います。
めげずにがんばってください。

でも、もう一度考えてみてください。
「木の家が欲しい。」
「珪藻土にしたい。」
それはなぜ?なんのために?

もしよろしければ、私の書いた小説風小冊子をお送りします。主人公の女性は今のゆかりさんと重なるところがあるかもしれません。
ご希望の際には、gisei@asazuma.com まで
お申し込みください。
もちろんプレゼントですのでご安心を!

Posted by: asazuma at January 23, 2005 3:58 PM

朝妻さん、こんにちは。

自慢する側とされる側、ほめる側とほめられる側・・・。それぞれの関係における立場は、正逆とは違いますよね。
施主サイドにおいて、自慢するのが能動的であるのに対し、ほめられるのは受動的、また、非施主サイドにおいて、自慢されるのが受動的であるのに対し、ほめるのは能動的というように。
自慢する/されるのが、押し付けがましさと迷惑感の出現であるのに対し、ほめる/ほめられるのはもう少し美しいやりとりのように思います。あのエントリは後者のほほえましいやりとりを考えながら書いてみました。

ただ、重要なのは、自慢したり、ほめられたりすることを第一に考えて家づくりをすべきではないということ。まさに朝妻さんのおっしゃるとおりです。

自慢するネタとほめるネタというのは一般化しようとすると、ほとんど重なってしまうようにも思います。だから、あんまり一般的な評価基準に振り回されないよう気をつけたいものです。
人のいう「いい物」は、必ずしも自分にとっては「いい物」ではない。それは家においても同じですから。

Posted by: garaika at January 24, 2005 8:32 AM

ありがとうございます。
メール差し上げます。

朝妻さんのおっしゃる木の家は、珪藻土は、そもそも家を建てるのは、
“何のために?”
で頓挫しています^^;

あーあ

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